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Give Yourself A Break!!

After cancelling dinner on my friend the other day and feeling so sad about it she sent me a text that made me laugh out loud. She is incredibly kind, compassionate, honest and a GREAT friend! She told me not to worry about cancelling and assured me that she understands that I have a lot going on right now. She told me I can't be perfect all the time and sometimes I have to give myself a break. If I have to cry, cry! If I need to sleep, sleep! If I have to be a bitch, BE A BITCH!

I love her for that advice. It made me feel so much better. I needed permission from someone I love to be imperfect. I always tell people that it's OK to be human. You're not going to be perfect everyday and some days you just can't keep it together.

Sometimes you're going to throw a temper tantrum, act irrationally, over eat...it's OK. The actions of your past do not define you! Just because yesterday I was a cranky mean lady and took it out on my innocent wife doesn't mean I am a terrible person. It means I had a rough day and I took it out on someone I love. We all do that!

My problem lately is being really ridiculous about slipping up with food or exercise and then beating myself up relentlessly. I had a bad night Wednesday; I overate and indulged in a slice (yes, just 1 because I bought just 1!) of chocolate cake and it's now Sunday and I'm STILL beating myself up for it. I've convinced myself that I've gained 10 pounds which is insane. I don't go to spin class and then convince myself that I've lost 10 pounds. I don't eat a salad and really and truly believe that I'm now at goal. But when I over indulge or I slip I convince myself that I'm just enormous. I can see it. It's in the mirror, glaring at me! My stomach is bigger, my second chin has returned, I can't see my jawline anymore. That's impossible and ridiculous and I know that and I need to give myself a break.

I realize that I won't feel this way if I stop overindulging but saying "I'm never going to overeat" or "I'm never going to have a piece of cake" is ridiculous. It's going to happen. Some months more than others. It's not the end of the world. I can pick up the pieces and move on. I've done it before I can do it again!!

Enough of the pity party. It's been a TOUGH week but if there's one thing I know, it's that I'm incredibly capable of overcoming any challenge!!

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